The value of a dollar.

A very famous quote goes “Save money. and money will save you”. This is something good to teach children; Saving money is a good habit. Life, in a menacing collaboration with the universe, presents the ordinary human with plenty of situations where he/she is unable to make ends meet. Therefore, children are generally taught to save for rainy days whilst spending on necessities. Now let us now take a look at how the needs of financial education changes. When a young boy, always provided for, transitions into his youth, he is able to step into the workforce, to earn his own income. This may be either to fully support himself or to act as a supplementary income to offset the financial strain on his providers.

However, how does this young man learn to differentiate between unnecessary spending, reasonable spending, overly driven saving, and reasonable saving. These, when desired in different combinations, could cause financial satisfaction, financial dissatisfaction, financial stability & progress, and an array of attitudes towards spending.

Our current day world is a place where being in possession of large amounts of money will place you at a major advantage over those live from pay cheque to pay cheque. However, young adults need to understand that increased amounts of money come with greater expenditure, increased financial reliance, greater taxes, and inability to look at things in a non-financial light.

Money is an essential. However if one starts working too hard to just have money piled up, he wouldn’t even have the time to enjoy his earnings. Therefore, knowing the necessities in each situation and staying rational when budgeting, saving or spending, is key to managing your finances well and staying stable.

Yes, money is attractive, but if earning money is taking time away from important things, cut yourself some slack. Lose a dollar today, Earn a dollar tomorrow; A piece of paper should never represent your happiness.

Keep hustling bro…do focus on the tasks at hand. Remember mate, it is 2020, A certificate will speak a thousand words about your ability and transform into thousands of dollars.

What is peace, really?

Peace; “the state of not being interrupted by worry, problems, noise, or unwanted actions.”

This is what the well renowned Cambridge Dictionary defines peace to be. However is it readily applicable and easily understood? No. Therefore here is an attempt to reiterate how peace can be defined and attained.

There is no way in hell, (or at least on earth), for any of us to please each and every one of the 7.8 billion people who share our world. Even the most altruistic person, someone we refer to as a ‘people pleaser’, though is liked by many, is ought to be disliked by many more. In essence, it is impossible for us to gain genuine approval from others for every move we make in our lives. However, this fact does not stop humans from seeking unnecessary approval. This often results in us feeling that our actions are embedded in a sea of disapproval. Sometimes, this leads to us being convinced that we have disappointed others who expect more from us. However, as the frequently used phrase goes, “expectations lead to disappointment”. Now think of this. What happens if we do not credit these feelings of disapproval and disappointment from others? What happens if we just choose to ignore and place our happiness and satisfaction before those who judge us? Is it possible, even a little, to experience peace? Yes.

Peace is indeed the satisfaction and pride in one’s self. We only stand the slightest chance at being peaceful if we begin to prioritize our happiness. The world and its people may…no, WILL have judgments to make but in the ideal situation of self sufficient confidence, these judgments should not graze our skin. Easier said than done, this is how i perceive peace to be attained in the social approval setting. It is no doubt that other contexts of peace such as religion, family, and violence and will call for other mindsets to partake in. Nevertheless, this is how i understand the way to attain peace from being the subject of disapproval and disappointment.

Regardless, and definitely needless to say, we do not deserve the right to judge one another, leading to destruction of their peace and belief in thyself. It would be great for us all to not condone such judgments as well. We all deserve peace.

So answering the title question,”What is peace, really?”…

Peace lies in acceptance, of ourselves and one another. When you’ve done that, that ability to be yourself and happy the way you are, that is Peace.

 

Deserving of love?

There’s nothing better than feeling loved;
In any relationship, none should wish to be served.

Self-love is all.
Key is to find it before you fall.

For when you fall, you fall hard.
And it can… No, it WILL shatter your heart.

The world’s a tough place,
That no matter how much love and care you show,
You could be easily replaced;
And then you’re left down low covered in the snow.

He is filled with insecurities, lined with confidence.
Seems arrogant but displays benevolence.

Would go the distance for one he loves,
Yet always told that he’s never enough,
Only receives tough love like a slap by a steel glove.
Only receives love that’s gruff.

What? Whaaaat?

Never would i have thought,

That so long after I sought,

The smile on my face you have brought,

In my heart you’ll always have a spot.

Some people enter your life with a motive.

Some are placed in your life to wipe away the negative.

Sometimes seeing someone makes you smile,

Seeing them smile carries you an extra mile.

Feelings are easy to manipulate,

So we shouldn’t predict and calculate;

Because when the time comes you need survival,

Only your own feelings will need revival.

Live life the way you want to,

The way you think you’d be happy living through.

For when you let what people say get to the top,

You’ll realise the noise never stops.

Hello…again

Five foot six met me again,

We go way back to a 6 year old photo frame.

Quite some time we were lost,

But now you’re my happiness, my source.

I love to see you smile,

Where has that smile been all this while?

Straighten up soldier,

Loosen up my dear.

You’re not easy to please,

But to please I’d cross the seven seas.

Never cry before me,

Because in your sadness I’ll never leave you be.

What have i done to deserve this,

Thank god our friendship i did not relinquish.

Couple days sad after a day happy?

Let’s fix that with a cold brewed coffee.

I want to show gratitude.

For that I’ll go to any altitude.

Love you.

Time shows…

The opening quarter of the year has not been necessarily enjoyable for me. However I’ve got plenty to be grateful for, that I’m more than blessed to have. Food, water and a place to call home. Gratitude aside, I’ve always felt hurt by the people i care for when its not reciprocated in a similar fashion.

I took a moment to look back at an earlier post I had written about love. I advised not to expect anything in return upon deciding on showing love. Why then was i not to heed my own advice? Was it just contradiction or was i simply not able to withstand hurt?

My closest of trusted people proved me wrong. My health status proved me wrong. Reality proved me wrong. Everything felt as though it was crushed.

Then i came across a quote…

A quote from none other than one of the wisest to exist, Mahatma Gandhi, that read “Nobody can hurt me without my permission”.

It took me a couple weeks to digest and infer. After much application, i soon realised that expecting people to never hurt me is not the way to go. I could simply toughen up my emotional and mental defence to be virtually immune to hurt.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t mean staying numb and ignoring. I meant building a self respect high enough to block out the hurt whilst maintaining modesty. If i loved myself enough, whose lack of love for me would hurt?

Call me arrogant. Say im full of myself. I’d survive a good ol’ heartbreak better than i ever would have by blaming myself forever.

Love yourself. No one would if you didn’t first.

for what we are and not what we could be

there he stood, scrutinized whilst having the purest heart, criticized whilst possessing thoughts of benevolence.

why?

We often forget that we live in a world of disgusting social, racial and religious stratification. Pathetic stereotypes that intend nothing but harm. It is habitual for the most of us to have fixed mindsets upon seeing someone. However it is when we let our actions towards them be influenced where shit gets out of hand.

If history taught us anything, it is that hatred based on categorization leads to no good. For example, The unneccessary violence against Irish Catholics during the American religious conflict in the 1800s. A more recent event that struck in September 2001 left innocent muslims all around the world presumed guilty. Pure souls of children and women were taken by mere classification. The execution of these clean hearted muslims did nothing but kill humanity all together at that point of time. They were treated as if the weight of the world had to be put on them for something a less than 0.000001% of the 1.5 billion muslims in the world. If anything almost every muslim on the streets of America was innocent. These atrocities seem to leave out cases such as the murder of Balbir Singh, who was killed being mistaken for a muslim. I could go on for hours about such incidents but why bother? Why hate on people so much so that you would go out of your way to harm them.

These are acts carried out by heartless idiots who would harm anyone whether they are good or bad. Let us all look at people for who they are and not who they could be. This discrimination continues on the lower scales even till today.  I am no saint but i am willing to put in the effort to see people for their intentions and purity instead of their race, religion or social status. What about you?

I thought wrong

We all need someone we can trust. We all do have someone we can trust, whether we have found them or not. In my interpretation, i believe someone i trust is someone i can blindly lean on and know i have a basis to rely on. The concept of trusting someone is simple to understand but clearly not as simple to uphold. See when trust is broken, it does not only mentally anger or affect the mind. It simply diminishes one’s ability to place forth their weaknesses and shortcomings before anyone. In simpler terms, it destroys the ability to trust anyone henceforth.

I am human and never innocent of the usual sins we humans commit. However, i try to own my mistakes and be better. Let us not think it is anywhere near morally right to break someone’s trust and continue being trusted without any guilt. It is plainly egocentric and disgusting to think you can intentionally be fake to anyone in order to gain trust.

Therefore let me start out my putting myself in the circle by apologizing to whoever whom may have felt that i broke their trust. Now let’s get this going. Because somehow someday we would be on the receiving end and i can assure you, its no celebration.

Have a good month ahead. Keep smiling

365 days.

The end draws near,

A whole damn year.

The Year-end FEVER we all get,

To 39.5 my temperature is set.

What have i accomplished?

What have i diminished?

Coffee kept me going,

Helped me stay focused in whatever i was doing.

Reading had me thinking,

Had me sat up writing.

It’s okay to feel incomplete

Just work on it, i plead.

The coming year will be better,

Need to do something? Don’t say “later”

link it up.

We all have intentions. We know that.

Some are good, Some are bad.

We do things for a reason.

Not all intentions as criminal as treason.

 

Never have we crossed paths

With the devil within from our past.

Ask yourself if fairness is present.

Make sure assumption is absent.

 

Nothing is worth lowering your self worth.

But be sure your ego does not give birth.

Because the new found ego will be deadly.

It tried to kill me.