Its not an anomaly that relationships end or progress in prolonged pain and hurt. But it doesn’t define, shouldn’t define and cannot define how we choose to live after a tragedy. Sometimes, people genuinely care about you but you can’t help but convince thyself that they are out to hurt you. What if all they intend is to protect you from themselves or a part of them they know you wouldn’t be pleased to meet. Effortless to say, tough to heed, but it is always best to pick yourself up and move on. Somethings are just meant to happen and maybe later in life you will bump into the sweet realisation that it was all for your own wellbeing. As long as you keep asking yourself “what if things were different?”, pain will be prominent. Sometimes no matter how hard you work to achieve something, it is best you dont. Learning from it; gaining more than you would have if things went your way. Pain is the best way to learn because instead of just what happened, you will remember how it made you feel. That’s an asset that will forever make you stronger.
Finding the light at the end of a tunnel can be agonizing. Stay in complete control of your emotions and control the opinions you get. Fair enough, everyone has the right to possess their opinions. However, if you know who or where you get demoralising opinions from, cut it out. You don’t need it, not at this stage. Find your happiness. Find your light, live in it. Well thats until you meet the next person you feel is worth a shot…
If you meet someone new and get butterflies just talking to them, ask yourself if you are ready. If yes, go with it, and never turn back to regret. Don’t relate it with the previous series of incidents that caused pain. Life is a complete circle and if you dont make the change to think positive before engaging in things, you will never lose scars. Race, relilgion, age, gender, height, weight, colour… put all these aside and appreciate how the person makes you feel. As your feelings begin to crescendo, be sure to not lose yourself but gain the other. That way, in case all’s fragmented beyond recovery, you will have a piece of yourself to fix and get back up.
Quoting Mark Twain, “Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” Although many, including myself, think or may have thought that this is simply being selfless and sacrificial, its nothing but unfair to yourself. Its better to make sure that you are not walking into something disparaging and demeaning. Well, on the other hand, when it comes to love, theres really no right way to do things. First quoted in John Lyly in 1579, “all is fair in love and war”. Therefore, any way of achieving true love is justifiable. Follow your heart. As long as the regret that follows doesn’t engulf you.
I like how you make me feel. Too soon? nahh..
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